The love of your life has popped the question and you emphatically said, “YES!” What comes next? Planning your big day! We’ve got 5 ways to get your Mom involved in the planning process. Remember, things won’t be perfect but your mom has likely dreamt about this day just about as much as you have. She likely has some gold nuggets of information stored in her heart and brain that would be helpful for you to tap into. She can help you think through family traditions or meaningful ways to make your family part of your wedding day.
Have a brainstorm session together
Make a date to chat a little about your big day. Discuss your vision, your excitement, and your thoughts about everything. Be sure to talk about whether or not you want to hire a wedding planner. Seeking out a wedding planner early on in the planning process can help you bring life and streamline your wedding vision. You can gather ideas and even start some shared Pinterest boards together. Your mom will likely bring up some good thoughts that maybe you haven’t thought of.
2. Go Dress Shopping
Oh this is a FUN one! You can invite your mom to go with you to the dress shop for that perfect gown that will make your future partner’s jaw drop! This can even be a day where you invite your bridesmaids, future mother in law, and flower girls for a little shopping therapy and bonding. You can share your wedding vision and thoughts about dresses with all the special people that will be by your side on your wedding day! Making your mom part of this day will be such a special treat for her and the rest of your wedding party. This is also a great time to bring along a few special loved ones that you will enjoy the excitement with!
3. Use something of hers on your special day
Using something that belongs to your mother your special day can be very meaningful and memorable. Maybe your mom has a special piece of jewelry she would like for you to borrow on your wedding day. A set of earrings, a bracelet, or necklace would all make a beautiful addition to your entire look. You can even bring part of your mother’s gown into your day by wearing her veil or taking a piece of her wedding dress to wrap your bouquet, make the ring bearer’s pillow, or sewing part of it into your dress.
4. Bring her along on venue visits
Nailing down a venue can be a difficult decision to do as a couple. Bring your mother along on some venue visits to be able to share thoughts with her. She will likely be able to ask questions that you haven’t thought of before. Having your mother involved in selecting a venue can help you think through your guest list to know what venue will best accommodate your guest’s needs.
5. Treat her to a special spa day
What woman doesn’t love a good spa day?! You can plan a special spa day the week of your wedding so you can get some much needed pampering to treat yourself, your mother, and your future mother in law. If you are feeling especially social, this can be a great time to invite your bridesmaids along to share in some laughs and maybe some wine.
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